Your Pronouns Are Not My Problem

The English Language Isn’t a Tool for Your Identity Crisis

I’m done pretending this makes sense. “Hi, my name is Skylar and my pronouns are xe/xir.” No they’re not. That’s not English. That’s not communication. That’s ideological cosplay — and it’s bleeding into everything.

Work emails. Zoom meetings. Government forms. College applications. Corporate trainings. All of them are bending over backwards to validate people’s feelings at the expense of everyone else’s sanity, speech, and freedom. If you’re tired of being forced to play along with someone else’s identity fantasy, you’re not alone. And you’re not the crazy one.

Here’s the thing people forget: you don’t even use someone’s pronouns when you’re talking to them. You use their name. You say you. You don’t say, “Hi Jason, how is he today?” No. You say, “How are you?” Pronouns are used when people are talking about someone, not to them.

So this whole movement? It’s not about clarity or kindness. It’s about control.

It’s about forcing others to speak a certain way, to internalize someone else’s self-perception, and to walk on eggshells just to participate in public life. It’s compelled speech. It’s grammar hostage-taking. It’s turning the English language into a minefield of gender politics.

They’re Not “Your” Pronouns

Let’s be grammatically honest: pronouns aren’t owned. They’re not yours to customize like a Twitter handle. They’re linguistic tools. They exist to make communication easier, not to broadcast your inner identity to the world. If your sense of self hinges on whether a stranger uses “they” instead of “he,” you’ve got bigger issues than grammar.

And yes, I know what’s coming next: “But it’s about respect!”

No. Respect isn’t obedience. Respect is treating people like adults, even when we disagree. I can disagree with your worldview and still treat you with dignity. That doesn’t mean I need to twist my words into ideological origami every time I refer to you.

Pronouns Don’t Rewrite Reality

There are two biological sexes. Period. That’s not hate — that’s science. Male and female. It’s observable, it’s testable, and it’s how the world works. But now, people want to be called “ze,” “fae,” or “bunself” and expect the rest of us to smile and nod like they’re prophets of progress.

Look — if someone wants to wear a dress and go by a nickname, fine. You do you. But the moment you start trying to legislate language, punish dissent, or demand compliance from everyone else, you’ve lost me. That’s not inclusivity. That’s indoctrination.

Where It Really Shows: Children, Schools, and the Workplace

What used to be a fringe online issue is now invading elementary schools. Kids are being told they can pick their gender, switch their pronouns daily, and that their parents aren’t allowed to question it. Teachers are getting fired for “misgendering.” Employees are being written up for not listing their pronouns in email signatures.

That’s not “safe space.” That’s enforced speech. That’s authoritarian.

Imagine being forced to declare your belief system in every introduction. “Hi, I’m Jason. I believe in two genders and objective truth.” Sounds ridiculous, right? But that’s what the pronoun craze has become — a required loyalty oath to postmodern nonsense.

You’re Not a Bigot for Using Common Sense

Let’s say this plain: refusing to use made-up pronouns doesn’t make you hateful. It makes you literate. It makes you sane. And it means you’re not willing to abandon reality to appease someone else’s emotional fragility.

If someone wants to be treated with kindness, I’m all for that. But don’t confuse kindness with surrender. I’m not going to trample truth just to make you feel seen.

This isn’t compassion. It’s compliance. And I won’t comply.